Welcome to the Europe and Middle East Region of Sexaholics Anonymous

You may have tried other sex recovery fellowships but not yet found the answer to your sex addiction problem. Sexaholics Anonymous has a strong definition of sobriety, which works for us. We have found a solution and have become free of lust, one day at a time.

We don’t claim this way is for everybody, but if you want to stop lusting and become sexually sober, we'd like to share our solution with you.

In Sexaholics Anonymous, we define sobriety as "no sex other than with spouse and progressive victory over lust". For us the term “spouse” means one’s partner in a marriage between a man and a woman. So, for the unmarried lust addict, sexual sobriety means freedom from sex of any kind. And for all of us in Sexaholics Anonymous, single and married alike, sexual sobriety also includes progressive victory over lust.

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Sharing our experience, strength and hope

Below SA members share their personal experiences in lust recovery. None of us speak for SA. The principles of Sexaholics Anonymous are found in our 12 Steps and 12 Traditions. Please take what you like and leave the rest.

I no longer had the power of choice

In my disease, I eventually "hit bottom". I discovered "pitiful and incomprehensible demoralization." I reached that mostly because I had fully realized through experience that I was truly powerless over lust and that, at the same time, I was losing my faith that God was there or was loving. I could not save myself and God either couldn't (because He wasn't there) or wouldn't (because He wasn't loving). I was in a state of hopelessness. It was exactly where I needed to be.

Expiration Date

There’s no feeling in the world like Lust.  It’s like being hit by lightning, blended into a milkshake, and fired from a cannon.  It makes me feel alive by making me feel like it’s killing me.  It resembles bungee jumping, roller coasters, shooting guns, the hottest buffalo wings on the menu: it’s an extreme sport.

This Higher Power demanded my total commitment

Once, when I was involved in the corporate world, I imagined that I could "beat" this obsession on my own, "with the "help" of the programme".

As I struggled, I explored many other therapies and programmes other than Sexaholics Anonymous. I had money and I reasoned that "more is better", because in my corporate life that principle worked.

Why we call ourselves sexaholics

We members of Sexaholics Anonymous call ourselves sexaholics because we know our problem is much bigger than sex, just as problem drinkers call themselves alcoholics because they know their problem is much bigger than alcohol. For us, sex/alcohol is but a symptom of a much graver underlying disease: addiction to lust. 

Any length is an extreme commitment

I'm just ending a sponsorship relationship with another member in Sexaholics Anonymous. The decision has been difficult for me. I talked to my sponsor about it, to get his perspective and thoughts. Still, I left with the feeling that this is my fault for being a lousy sponsor. I do know I'm not the best, but I'm pretty sure I'm not the worst either.

If the wrapping paper is glamorous enough....

In my time-controlled forays on the internet, to use it for the healthy tool it can be, despite whatever filters or blocks I may use, I will inevitably come across some image that appeals to my sexaholism.  Ad men, using all their dark arts, have conjured up a mousetrap for me.


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