Welcome to the Europe and Middle East Region of Sexaholics Anonymous

You may have tried other sex recovery fellowships but not yet found the answer to your sex addiction problem. Sexaholics Anonymous has a strong definition of sobriety, which works for us. We have found a solution and have become free of lust, one day at a time.

We don’t claim this way is for everybody, but if you want to stop lusting and become sexually sober, we'd like to share our solution with you.

In Sexaholics Anonymous, we define sobriety as "no sex other than with spouse and progressive victory over lust". For us the term “spouse” means one’s partner in a marriage between a man and a woman. So, for the unmarried lust addict, sexual sobriety means freedom from sex of any kind. And for all of us in Sexaholics Anonymous, single and married alike, sexual sobriety also includes progressive victory over lust.

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Sharing our experience, strength and hope

Below SA members share their personal experiences in lust recovery. None of us speak for SA. The principles of Sexaholics Anonymous are found in our 12 Steps and 12 Traditions. Please take what you like and leave the rest.

One trigger after another

Tonight I'm in a city for a certain conference that is well known for lust. This is a tough trip for me so far. I feel most challenged in my hotel room. It's hard - just one trigger after another. And it's all me. When I leave my room I'm not focusing on the attention I may or may not be getting.

Lust won't go easy on me

I'm loving all the shares on practical tips for surrendering lust temptations. I'm told sexaholism is three-fold: physical, emotional, and spiritual. Ideally my surrender would involve all three.

Insanity. Unmanageability. Bondage

Our basic text Sexaholics Anonymous does a good job of warning us against premature confession. So the only advice I would dare give is to read the book and do what it says. Having said that, my experience is that the more open I've been able to be with others, the more it has helped me. The "double life" that I used to have to live in my lust addiction was slavery. 

Settling old debts

1. I recently went on a four day bus trip to several concentration camps near Hamburg, Germany, with residents from my native village.

If I truly loved I would not be acting out

I often hear people in the programme mention that they love their spouse. I had said that too - and I really believed it. 

But the White Book tells me that lust kills love. I didn't truly love my spouse or anyone, including God. I just used the words, as if I was reciting it from the dictionary definition. But if I truly loved, then I wouldn't be acting out with lust. 

My way of sharing shapes my way of thinking

One of the strangest things about recovery, for a self-centered egotist like me, is this concept of doing what I do for others.  It is in this area that I most notice the "personality change sufficient to bring about recovery," but it is also where I am continually challenged.  My natural state is selfishness.  


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