Welcome to SA

You may have tried other sex recovery fellowships but not yet found the answer to your sex addiction problem. SA has a strong definition of sobriety, which works for us. We have found a solution and have become free of lust, one day at a time. 

We don’t claim this way is for everybody, but if you want to stop lusting and become sexually sober, we'd like to share our solution with you.

Fighting my addict?

In my early contact with the SA program, I used to talk about "the addict" as if that was some other entity that I could fight, struggle with and eventually gain control over. I have since stopped thinking and talking that way. And I believe this is more than mere semantics. I needed a change in my thinking and attitudes if I was ever to find lasting sobriety and recovery.

They aren't going to change - I have to.

I find TV so frustrating!  Until a few months ago, I would soak it all in and just let it drift through my mind.  Like the AA Big Book says, I wanted to be the director of the movie-fantasy playing in my mind.  I really didn't care about the plot. I'd watch weekly sitcoms and think rude thoughts about how their B-Actors got their jobs or who's relatives they must be, etc.  But I really didn't care because I was just soaking it all up visually.

The original and best workbook

The core of my recovery, that has worked for me and many others, is to work the Steps with a sponsor.  In essence, I found someone who had what I wanted - long-term relief from the obsessive problems that beset me, peace in their life, a smile on their face - and I decided to do whatever they did.  I asked them to sponsor me, I asked what they did, and then I followed their directions to the best of my ability.

How friendship in recovery works

I was thinking this morning about how it is that I have made meaningful, wonderful friendships in SA, unlike any I have had pre-recovery.  Before SA, my friendships were functional and superficial.  I had friends to “do lunch”, shopping, or other activities.  We rarely spoke of anything other than our kids or gossip.  Now, I talk to my friends about everything that goes on in my head, my struggles and my victories, no matter how small.  I have told them things that I swore I would never tell anyone.

The guidance of my sponsor

I just wanted to share some of my gratitude. I've just called my sponsor, who is always encouraging me to do Step work. He asked that we get together tomorrow morning, prior to our SA meeting, to discuss my current Step work.


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